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The Strong n’ Sexay Lucille Bogan: A Spine Made of Whalebone & a Cock* Made of Brass

What True Sex Positivity and Sexual Freedom looks like!

DISCLAIMER & TRIGGER WARNING:  “Don’t listen to these songs if you have an aversion to dick, cock, pussy, fuckin’ or shit…… or a sexy fat woman that is intimately acquainted with all 5. Thank you”. (SS)

Lyrics:

I got a man I love
I got a man I like
Every time I fuck the mens I give ’em the dog gone claps
Oh Baby
Gives ’em the dog gone claps

But that’s the kinda pussy that they really like

I told ’em I got a good cock
and its got four damn good names
rough top
rough cock
tough cock
cock without a bone
you can fuck my cock
suck my cock 
or leave my cock alone

Ohhh Baby
Honey if its all night long
You can fuck my cock or suck my cock Baby
until the cows come home

You know both of my mens
they are tight like that
they got a great big dick just like a baseball bat
oooooh fuck me, 
do it to me all night long

I want you to do it to me Baby
do me til the cows come home

They know a bitch from Baltimore
I got hairs on my cock that will sweep the floor
I gotta funk on them hairs that will shut the door
and I look over your hands saying I’m a bitch from Baltimore

Ohhh talkin bout a bitch from Baltimore
and I got hairs on my cock
sweep anybody’s floor

I gotta big fat belly
I gotta big broad ass
and I can fuck any man
with real good class
talkin ’bout fuckin

talkin ’bout grindin baby all night long

and I can do it to ya hunny, do it til the cows come home

if you suck my pussy 
baby I’ll suck your dick
I’ll do it ya honey till I make you shit
ohhh baby
honey do it all night long
do it to me papa,
[Do] me til tomorrow comes.

A more lesbian-themed ditty called BD [Bull Dyke] Womens Blues by Lucille; perhaps she was bisexual, or a lesbian who didn’t have to explain or apologize for likin’ some dick from time to time:

Lyrics:

Comin’ a time, BD women, they ain’t gonna need no men
Comin’ a time, BD women, they ain’t gonna needs no men
Oh, the way they treat us is a low down and dirty thing

BD women you sure can’t understand
BD women you sure can’t understand
They got a head like a sweet angel and they walk just like a natural man

BD women, they all done learned their thing
BD women, they all done learned their thing
They can lay their jive just like a natural man

BD women, BD women, you know they sure is rough
BD women, BD women, you know they sure is rough
They all drink up many whiskey and they sure will strut their stuff
BD women, you know they work and make their dough
BD women, you know they work and make their dough
And when they get ready to spend it, they know the place where to go.

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A bit about Lucille:

Born in 1897, Lucille Bogan first began recording in 1923, singing vaudeville songs. By the 1930s she had established herself as a blues singer and her oeuvre was slanted decidedly toward the raunchy. In songs like “Sloppy Drunk Blues”, “Tricks Ain’t Walkin’ No More”, and “B.D. Woman’s Blues” (the B.D. stands for bull dyke) she focused on themes like gambling, drinking, lesbianism, and prostitution; themes that featured prominently in the juke joints she had worked in early in her career. (source)  [She was] among the first to be recorded. She also recorded under the pseudonym Bessie Jackson. The music critic and sexologist Ernest Borneman stated that Bogan, along with Ma Rainey and Bessie Smith, was in “the big three of the blues” (wiki).

* Re. “My cock is made of brass” — “She’s not got her words confused, as some have suggested.  Nor is it a lesbian thing.  To her, what she had between her legs was a ‘cock’ – as it was for other southern [U.S.] women of her age, color and linguistic directness. [..] The female cock was a southern U.S. thing. It was the most common slang word for the vagina for a very long time. As late as the 1960s, in the southern states, ‘a piece of cock’ was a woman. (source).

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In closing, here’s a great sex education video called Jam that talks about what healthy sex looks & feels like, minus the pro-prostitution piece, which is commodified sex and which goes against the video’s message of commodifying sex being unhealthy.  Other than that, a very cool, educational and refreshing vid:

As my fierce n’ fab feminist sistra Petra Cerise Bocourt-Rosario states about this vid:

It’s so true, screw planning sex as a chore, rigid must-work expectations brought from previous relationships, porn or “my friends do that so should I”. I’d put more emphasis on creativity or tuning-in than on talent though. I like what she says about consent and desire a little bit after the middle of the video and kicking out the concept of sex as a mindless exchange or commodity, but then she kinda kills it with embracing prostitution… Also the part about judgement can be interpreted in multiple ways including the sex poz bullshit as do not dare to criticize anything sex related, which partially negates the consent and desire and anti-commodity (common for many sex therapists saying shit like out of 10 sexual encounters 4 will suck, 4 will be ok and 2 will be awesome) points. All in all a very refreshing vid focusing on finding the missing substance, energy/emotion/experience flow and giving importance to the whole process.

And on the topic of healthy sex in general, Petra shares:

I dislike the term “waiting for sex”, because it sounds like after the waiting period over it’s mandatory. I prefer separate session decisions that ought to be respected no matter if the reason is “too soon in the relationship”, “feeling anxious tonight” or anything else. It’s fucked up when compromise means compromising ourselves deep down where it matters the most.  Not talking about using Deepthroat as an example of sex positivity… True sex positivity comes from talking about sex and related with honesty, acceptance and respect and keeping that in mind when theory leads to practice. It’s bullshit to think that most couples would find the narrow definition of sex in porn as the best stuff they can get “naturally”, it’s a fucking brainwashing.

I think one reason why anti-porn and anti-prostitution feminists and other such activists are wrongly labeled “sex negative” or prudes or vanilla, etc., is because there is an imbalance between critiquing unhealthy sex, i.e. degrading, violent, misogynist, dehumanizing and harmful porn & prostitution (lots of excellent critique in this department), and educating about healthy sex i.e. respectful & consensual (not much of this out there, in comparison to the critique).  So I hope this post helps bring some balance to the “sex negative” versus “sex positive” debates, because understanding what harmful/unhealthy sex is, is half of the equation; learning about what constitutes healthy, respectful, mutually pleasurable sex is the other, very important part.

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Roseanne Barr: A Formidable Comedic Matriarchal Goddess & One of my Pretend Moms

Feminist Rag Award NEW_Roseanne Barr

I think that all comics or humorists, or whatever we are, ask questions. That’s what we’re supposed to do. But I not only ask the questions, I offer solutions.

A comic needs to understand the big picture in order to fracture it and present it to people so they can see it more clearly. Comedy is the only hope for humanity.

There is so much to say about Roseanne Barr. She’s smart, funny, beautiful, real and makes a lot of sense, for starters. She’s also a writer, a stand up comedian, an actress and a political activist; she ran for President of the United States in 2012, will run again in 2016, and says she’ll keep running until she wins. Out of all the presidential candidates I’ve seen, she’s the best by a long shot and could easily make a clean space in the huge mess that is the colonist Congress/White House that’s been running the genocidal oppression and enslavement show for the last 500+ years in the Americas.

The Conner Family from the television sitcom ‘Roseanne’ (1988-1997)

Like many from my generation, I first learned of Roseanne from watching her sitcom ‘Roseanne’ which ran from 1988 to 1997. This show always made me feel so warm and fuzzy, and still does when I watch reruns. I would giggle with glee at how she smartly, effortlessly, lovingly and effectively ran the Conner household. This simple, funny and smart “blue collar/working class” family probably spoke to and affirmed the hearts of the majority of American and Canadian households who weren’t chasing the elitist American Dream Nightmare and instead were busy being themselves, struggling to survive the day to day shit life throws at us.

The Conner family was the kind of quirky, diverse, fun-loving, down-to-earth, non-judgmental, supportive family I always dreamed of belonging to, and I loved getting lost in this cozy world for the 30 minutes the show would air. This show was such a refreshing change from the bland mainstream Stepford status quo television “programming” on TV, then, and what seems like more so, nowadays.

Roseanne is unapologetic about her beliefs in her uniquely casual yet serious-as-a-heart attack manner. She takes no shit from anyone, which is one of the many things I love about her.

A guy is a lump like a doughnut. So, first you gotta get rid of all the stuff his mom did to him. And then you gotta get rid of all that macho crap that they pick up from beer commercials. And then there’s my personal favorite, the male ego.

Roseanne inspires the matriarchal warrior within me. She also makes me look forward to aging. I see her as I see all women, like a fine wine that gets better with age. She is the kind of person that commands Respect from those smart enough to see her for the spark of beauty and power she is. Roseanne says it how it is in a funny and accessible way, and offers simple solutions to stupid, over-complicated problems created by the colonist culture. Though she isn’t a decolonist and believes in making changes within the current political/legal-economic order of things, I still think she’s still a radical woman just for being herself. I like what she says about her relationship with politics/the political system:

I just want to keep the voice of dissent alive in all of our elections. I don’t really want to hang out with politicians. I’d rather go straight to hell, and not collect $200.

She doesn’t pretend to be a submissive man-pleaser like the colonist patriarchy demands of women, and I love her so much for that, it was so inspiring to me to watch as a young female trying to navigate my way through the jungle of the fucked up misogynist colonist culture.  It takes guts to be ourselves and voice our rejection of the mainstream bullshit lies that society (and sometimes our families) feed us from birth, and Roseanne does it with her unique style of power and grace.

Thank you Roseanne for the radical act of being honest with a triple dose of brilliant hilarity; you are a fresh and fierce gust of inspirational wind beneath my matriarchal wings!

“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it.” — Roseanne Barr

Source for some of Roseanne’s background info and quotes used in this article.

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