I am me
You are you
Let me be me
I will let you be you.
How we perceive & experience eachother is not for us to puppeteer.
When unmolested by the rattling din of past & present colonist chains & scripts,
Magical connections can happen;
Our Beings can truly and authentically experience eachother
…or two ships just pass in the night…
When you control perception,
You disallow me to be me,
You disrupt you from being you, and
A pure, unfiltered us cannot Just Be,
And we’ll never know what could have been.
Some Thoughts on Sex & Gender
Sex is a biological category. It is one way that we identify, understand and relate with one another, most especially when it comes to reproduction in that male and female chromosomes are necessary to reproduce.
There are three human sexes: female, male and intersex. If we have mostly female sexed body parts and genes, we are female. If we have mostly male sexed body parts and genes, we are male. If our parts and genes are a combination of male AND female, we are intersex. These three sex identities exist along a continuum of possibilities, meaning there are TONS of ways our sex parts and genes can look like, ALL of which are normal and natural because it’s what Nature produced. There is no such thing as being born in the “wrong body” when we are spiritually sound, because spiritual soundness = mind/body integration.
Wherever we land on this spectrum, nothing about our bodies is in need of “fixing,” unless something about our biology disables us from day to day functioning, in which case medical intervention is necessary to live (e.g. if we are unable to pee or poop). Other than that and in conclusion, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!
Equally important, sex is also a physical expression of intimacy between people that bonds them. Despite what some religions believe, sex is not solely for reproductive purposes. Sex produces chemicals and emotions that strengthen the social and psychological bonds between people. The ceremonies and rituals surrounding the social aspect of sex bonding differs from culture to culture, and ranges from radically spiritually transformative & empowering to radically spiritually disempowering & damaging. More on this in future posts.
Gender is a set of ideas made up by cultures that people use to identify, understand and relate with one another. Gender ideas differ radically from culture to culture. In the euro-western colonist culture, gender is a HUGE mess that seems to be getting messier the louder the issue becomes. And lately, it seems that the issue is the loudest its ever been in “modern” times.
The problem begins in two critical places: 1) the fact that this thing called gender is “assigned” at birth, and 2) the actual ideas/rules/expectations behind maleness and femaleness, and then imposing i.e. “assigning” these rules on people – brand new babies (!) – before they get a chance to discover who they are and how they want to express themselves in the world.
As we grow up – and throughout life – we see and hear a TON of messages about what girls and boys/men and women SHOULD look like, act like, be like, etc. Some kids accept these messages and conform to them, and some kids don’t. Of those who don’t, some don’t pay much attention to conforming to the crowd and just do their own thing, with no distress felt. Having open-minded, non-judgmental and supportive parents, teachers, doctors and peers helps hugely here. Of those who do feel distress around their sex and gender, often feel confusion or that they are misunderstood, not accepted, lost, and simply do not belong in this world (but more accurately, do not belong in/cannot conform to the colonist culture), and are different from everyone else. Within this distress is the colonist idea that difference is bad – the colonist culture reacts to difference with such fear and disdain that it’s as though the culture is allergic to it. So whatever expectations are placed on the child that s/he cannot meet, translates to “I am bad/wrong and don’t belong.”
And the knee-jerk, short-sighted, bandaid solution to this existential crisis embedded in the disconnected, dis-eased colonist culture? “Sexual re-assignment” which consists of radically invasive and extremely painful medical intervention, all in the name of conforming. Brought to you by the colonist psychiatric-medical industry “experts” who continually invent new mental disorders to “fix” by way of drugs and/or surgeries (and sometimes electro-shocking people, depending on the distress being treated).
The colonist culture goes to great lengths to do anything BUT treat people in distress respectfully and non-invasively, with the few exceptions to this rule only serving to prove the rule. Instead of respecting, encouraging and normalizing people who don’t conform to the rigid, narrow colonist notions of male and female, “experts” are normalizing and enabling their distress, disembodiment and dysphoria and scrambling to re-assemble the Natural Order of Things in order to bring these people some inner peace. The inner peace some people find after getting ‘sex reassignment” speaks to the depths of dysphoria felt. I am not advocating to stop giving people sex changes because people have the right to do whatever they please to their bodies. I am just speaking to the sex and gender crest of confusion & mess going on in the colonist culture. And it’s a real crisis when it comes to kids being taught that males can have vaginas and birth babies, that females can have penises, that indeed they are born in the wrong body if they feel that way and that it can be “fixed”, and the countless other (well-intentioned) distortions of Nature and Common Sense being imposed on kids these days having to do with sex and gender.
We must un-mine our minds and reconnect with Common Sense and the inherent intelligence that is Nature. We must DE-COLONIZE!