I saw this tweet while blog-browsing. I think none of the listed options are real choices, they are all slavery and illusions of choice in a colonist world, whether filed under feminism or capitalism or patriarchy or whatever.
To “further one’s career” in the so-called “modern/developed/civilized” world is to partake in colonist slavery and genocide. Whether it’s as a lawyer, architect, plumber, investment banker or hooker, all are positions of servitude to a master, unless you happen to work your way “up” to a slavemaster position, in which case you get to exploit others, all in the name of greed and selfishness because that is the nature of the colonist beast. Being a nanny is the least harmful because it is universally necessary and natural work to protect, nurture and sustain the lives of young ones, though it’s still slavery if you’re doing it for someone else. And it’s even more of a mangled mess when we have to give up caring for our own kids in order to care for others just so that we can feed and house our own loved ones, such as the case with importing nannies from foreign places. Hot spots in the past were the Caribbean and the Philippines, I don’t know what the hot spot nanny places are these days. These poor women leave their families behind “for a better life” (thereby opening the door to the trauma that is immigration), sending their wages back home and eventually, if “lucky”, migrating their families to wherever they work. More colonization in motion — Indigenous people and ways ravaged and destroyed by colonialism, forced to abandon their home and family, move to a foreign (and stolen Native) land to babysit the kids of colonist slave/masters who go to their offices and participate in yet more colonization exploitation projects. Toil, toil, toil, keep upping profit for those useless widgets and gadgets and “services”, ever increasing quotas because last year’s profit MUST be beat, because enough is never enough!
Law cannot fix any of this mess because laws merely regulate slavery, giving (some of) The People a false sense of security and order. The more colonized and enslaved we are, the more secure we feel and believe in laws and those who create and enforce them. “The Law” is actually a colonist tool of social control that represses, oppresses and punishes/exacts revenge. Laws are rules made and shuffled around by self-appointed leaders, punishable by more slavery (via fines) or violent punishment/revenge when broken (via imprisonment & death sentences). As far as ‘leaders’ go, true leaders don’t need to put on elaborate dog and pony shows to win popularity contests because people naturally follow those who speak and behave with sense. When s/he stops making sense, The People stop following that person, and look to others for guidance. So solutions to any of this nightmare have never, can never, and will never come from the colonist legal system or colonized minds.
I used to think that “sex work”/”prostitution”, i.e. sex slavery was perhaps the most intimate kind of slavery, and therefore the most harmful. But the more I DEcolonize myself, the more I have to wonder, who’s to say sex slavery is “worse” or “more” harmful than mother earth being raped — by fracking, by trees clear cut and debarked, by the air being contaminated with industrial toxins, by mining processes poisoning fresh drinking water (with all these rapes dreamed up, organized and carried out by slavery (“jobs”), with many people trying to “further their careers” in whatever industry they’re in)? Colonized minds scoff at – sometimes even take offense to – a comparison of human rape to land rape, but traditional Indigenous people cry and die resisting both because they see and treat humans and earth with equal importance. Indigenous viewpoints do not place things in hierarchies or linear ordered assignment of value (e.g. humans being more important or more feeling than animals or forests or oceans), because ALL LIFE is valuable, and Indigenous ways see everything on mother earth, including mother earth herself, as being alive, necessary, and worthy of respect and care. Therefore it’s equally bad when ANY of it is harmed. Colonist attempts to hierarchically measure degrees of harm amounts to a mind-numbing administrative circle jerk, i.e. circles and circles of nothingness, instead of just STOPPING the madness, then listening to and following traditional Indigenous voices and ways. Native people and their traditional ways of living are the rightful “owners” and leaders of the stolen land which all of us non-natives continue to occupy. Colonist “green/alternative” solutions are often not thought out enough and end up creating different sets of problems to the same old colonist game. But the colonist ego is so large (fragile), the mind so narrow, the heart and ears so closed, the spirit so lost, to stop, really think about things, and give up the power it so obsessively hoards, wields and abuses.
We have to make difficult “choices” in an enslaved, colonized world. We do the best we can, which changes as we change, and as our circumstances change. Therefore I would never shame or blame or support efforts that deny a woman or man the “right” to sell sex, because it’s a privileged position of pure luck that keeps me and many others from having to make such a “career choice.” And luck can change at any time. For the selling of sex to no longer be a “choice”, a whole lot of other DEcolonist things have to happen. Like no more money system, which is the currency of slavery. Like people realizing that human bodies cannot be separated from the spirit and are NOT for objectification or commodification or separation into consumable parts, to be discarded when worn out or too “boring” to the “consumer.”
I dream of a world where sex slavery, and ALL other forms of slavery — whether physical, spiritual, emotional, mental, or ecological — are not just re-packaged, branded and sold as “jobs” or “choice” or “freedom” or “democracy” or “civilization” or “progress” or “evolution” and so on, but truly no longer exist other than as cautionary tales. I dream of returning to our tribal, “primitive” ways of being, the Right and Intelligent way we ALL lived in our own homelands before losing our way. Our ways are so buried simply because we’ve been colonized for SO long — much longer than still LIVING Indigenous people. We’re lucky we didn’t wipe all of them out (only most of them) — and against all odds, these amazingly resilient people are throwing off their colonist shackles, UNassimilating, and reclaiming and reconnecting to their traditional ways of life. These are the voices we must privilege, prioritize, learn from and follow if we ever want to live a Good Life. And those who try to say this is “romanticizing”* Native people or noble savaging, well, that idea spring from a colonist/colonized mentality which disrespects things it doesn’t know or understand or RESPECT — in this case, different people doing things differently. Discredit, delude and deny the unknown & different are colonist culture ways of clinging to its perceived superiority, so take care not to fall into this trap. There is nothing “romantic” about a healthy way of life. What IS unhealthy is that Indigenous/tribal ways of life are so disrespectfully dismissed/written off by colonist mental & verbal gymnastics.
Image respectfully borrowed from here.
* Funny how the concept of “romanticizing” has a built in assumption that the current order of things is some natural default and just The Way Things Are. So from this incredibly narrow and arrogant perspective, to dream of/fight for better and different ways of doing things becomes outside the realm of possibility, especially if it has to do with Indigenous people and ways, which were supposed to have been wiped off the planet by genociders who invented the notion of “romanticizing” — great way to perpetuate the genocide in people’s psyches, to continue dismissing/devaluing/disrespecting Indigenous ways. “Romanticizing” — what a limited imagination colonist/colonized naysayers have! And what a miserable default worldview of life they have, if better ways of looking at and living life are a mere fantasy and “romanticism”, instead of simply the way things actually WERE for *everyone* before the dis-ease of colonization/industrialization/domestication began. Let’s bring Indigenous ways back and resist ALL forms of so-called (continued) colonization/globalization/”civilization”, not sink deeper into its quicksands.